I don't like you but I love you.....
05/17/2010
Sounds familiar? Here are some of the lyrics to the song:
Really Got A Hold On Me
Smokey Robinson, Motown
I don't like you, but I love you
Seems I'm always, thinking of you
Oh, oh, oh, you treat me badly
I love you madly
You really got a hold on
You really got a hold on
You really got a hold on
You really got a hold on meIt seems as if this is the universal problem with relationships - we are always falling for people who are no good for us and make us miserable, because of this I have been working with the 50/50 rule for a while now. It takes an analytical person to look at an emotional problem this way but.....if the person is making you unhappy more than 50% of the time, then it is time to move on...life is short!
http://www.latexsens.com/ournewandspiritualworld.jpgOf course this is way too simple - you need to ask yourself why you are letting the other person make you unhappy because believe it or not - you have a choice - you can become immune to destructive negative behaviour.
The first step is to realise that there is a problem. Are you always complaining about the other person - has this been going on for a while? Have they done something that you feel is unforgivable? Is there realistically a chance that things will get better soon?
The second step is to ask yourself - what exactly is it about the relationship that is not working? Is it the other person or is it you? Why are you so unhappy? Which of your needs are not being met? Can you fix it?
Step three is to take some action. You must take the action - you must change either yourself, your reactions to this person or you should walk away.
http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_jdSom6LVAb8/Sj1XoAvT4-I/AAAAAAAAAAc/5K037bGt4lQ/s320/love_hurts.jpgTrying to change someone else is a waste of time, but you can change the way that you allow them to treat you. Here is a poem that says it all..by brightsmylesxx
You can't hurt me anymore
They used to cut so deep
Leaving painful gashes
On my heart
Now they barely leave a mark
Within days, all trace of them is lost.
You can't hurt me anymore.
I won't let you.
I'm done giving you power
control
over me.
I am free.
You can't hurt me anymore.
Maybe there are some scars
Scars of the past
Scars of the things you did
That will haunt me forever.
Maybe the harsh words have been said
And the damage has been done.
I'll live with those scars.
You can't hurt me anymore.
I'll look at them
Those gashes formed by the words you said
And remember
How you used to control me
The things I did
The clothes I wore
The words I spoke
You've lost that power.
You can't hurt me anymore.
It's not easy to walk away
Each step I took
Away from you
Brought the teasing and pain
But I kept on walking
Until I had reached freedom.
You can't hurt me anymore.
Finally, I've taken off the mask
Of a perfect
happy girl.
I'm through with bottling it all inside.
It's time for me to just be myself
And not let you force me to be someone I'm not
I'm free.
You can't hurt me anymore.
Your words
They used to cut so deep
Leaving painful gashes
On my heart
Now they barely leave a mark
Within days, all trace of them is lost.
You can't hurt me anymore.
I won't let you.
I'm done giving you power
control
over me.
I am free.
I am free.
I am free.
And you can't hurt me
anymore.Try it, it works!
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