Mystic Polly

This is my blog about living kindly, being kind to myself, kind to the planet and kind to others. Life is a journey and I do not always get it right.

I have noticed that when I hang out with other women who are supposedly my friends they sometimes make really catty remarks. In the past I would have brooded on this for a while and probably bitched about them behind their backs. In my year of being kind, I have decided to take a new approach.

Women see other women as competition, perhaps it is hard wired in our brains from some ancient ancestry, women competing for men, for food, for attention. We have all learned how to flirt, dress up and flutter our eyelashes but at a certain point we have to be much more than this. We need to be strong, self sufficient and intelligent to be successful today.

When a woman sees another woman as successful she usually reacts in one of three ways, she is happy to be around a successful person, she tries to copy the successful person or she competes with them. I recently found happiness by making changes in my life and accepting who I am, I complain less and I feel more confident. I have noticed that some women around me have become competitive, by trying to belittle that things that I do and bolster their own importance. 

These women may say random things to make themselves feel better, such as quoting their college GPA, their higher education, the make of their car or their successes at work while demeaning the things that you have achieved, All of the former things are acceptable if the conversation is about education, cars or work but it is weird when you are discussing something else. 

How do we cope with these competitive women who make us feel bad?  Realize that they are feeling jealous of you so the best thing you can do is say "thank you'. You may not say it aloud but you should be thankful for all the success and happiness that you have. The other ladies still need to do some work so that they will feel better about themselves. We are all different with different skills and different interests let's celebrate our diversity and enjoy each others company. We cannot change others we can only change the way that we react to competition so let's all be friends and say 'thank you" and appreciate each other.

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