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The Year of Living Kindly -Kind Woman Blog - Belly Dancing is good for you

This is my blog about living kindly, being kind to myself, to the planet and to others. I love to dance, because it makes me feel good, it is a great relaxer and a way to meet wonderful people. 

Last night after dance we were discussing why dance makes us feel so good and one student mentioned that dance opens the chakras, I found this great article: Does Bellydance affect the chakras?  It is so true that bellydance can help you to make positive changes in your life. I started dancing at a time in my life when I was depressed and lacking in confidence, dance certainly helped me to feel better.

It doesn't matter how well you dance, you dance for yourself. Here is a poem that I wrote about this.

Dance for Me

There were no performance nerves as she gracefully took the floor

No goggle eyed supporters waiting behind the door

The room was almost silent when the beat began to hit

She takes a breath and starts to move and smiles a little bit

Perfectly poised, she floats around the space

She spins to left and right with pleasure on her face

Her body sways, her movements flow,

her arms and legs and hips also

so many steps, around and round,

Her feet they barely touch the ground

And when at last the song is over

She curtsies first and then bends over

An enormous stretch for all to see.

She moves each muscle separately.

There’s no applause, and no ovation

She does not seek appreciation

Breathing in the silent air,

Smiling as she combs her hair

Her style unique

Her strange physique

May not be made for shows

She doesn’t care

She’s well aware

and happy for she knows

She does not dance for you or me

her crazy choreography

She says aloud is made for me.

She grins and spins and skips away

‘I dance for me,” the echoes say.

The room exhales, an empty home,

awaits tomorrow’s show

For even when you dance alone,

Someone will always know.

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Benefits of Composting

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Dream Meaning - Dreaming about Pie, Dreaming about an Explosion

 

This is my dream interpretation blog, where I describe a dream and interpret each element to produce a dream meaning.  Here is my dream interpretation blog, where I explore dream meanings, you may also enjoy the daily psychic workout where I explore tarot cards, dreams, runes and meditation.

In today's dream the dreamer is eating a piece of blueberry pie, she is enjoying the pie but at the same time she is waiting for an explosion outside.

Dreaming about pie is usually a good symbol, if you are having your slice of pie, it means that you are getting the rewards for your efforts. If the pie was good then you are well rewarded but if the pie was bad then you are either not working hard enough or you are not being treated fairly at work and are not receiving what you deserve.

Making a pie is a sign that you are preparing to enjoy the harvest of your hard work. Watching others eat pie means that you are either sharing too much of your wealth or you are not being rewarded for your work. 

To drop a pie on the floor shows that your efforts are being wasted by carelessness on your part. To burn a pie shows that you are taking too long about completing a task and time will run out before you are ready to complete it.

Dreaming about explosions: explosions are a sign of an outburst of some kind, it could be emotional, like a temper tantrum, it can be devastating. Explosions can also be a way of clearing away old things so that new ones can be built. If you set the explosion then you are the one with repressed emotions that you need to express. If someone else set the explosion and you are not happy about it, then you need to be careful about who you are hanging out with because their issues are going to effect you in a dramatic way.

If you hear an explosion in the distance then, people around you are going to have upheavals of a dramatic or emotional type. If you are expecting an explosion, then you are aware of a dramatic event that is going to happen around you.

In today's dream the lady is enjoying her share of the pie but she knows that something dramatic is going to happen in her environment, she is going to enjoy her rewards while she still is able to do so.

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dream about a helicopter

Dreams about people

Dream Meaning: Room mate, furniture, musicians

Dream of searching for your seat, dream of looking for your date

Dreams about Food

Dream about pie, dream about explosion

Dream of losing your purse, dream of making dough; dream of photographs

Dream meaning numbers

Dreaming of numbers, dreaming of income

Dream about cups, dream about two

See clearly through the fog of your dreams.

If you would like me to interpret a dream for you, please email me at mysticpolly@gmail.com,

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The Year of Living Kindly -Kind Woman Blog - Plastic Packaging

This is my blog about living kindly, being kind to myself, kind to the planet and kind to others. Life is a journey and I do not always get it right!

One of my goals in my "year of living kindly' was to be more eco aware and to cut down on the amount of plastic packaging that I use and also incidentally on the number of plastic products that I purchase. We all know by now that the oceans are filling up with plastic, plastic does not bio degrade or it takes 1000 years to break down so our plastic use is not sustainable.

Step one is to use re-useable bags when shopping, I am at about 50% on this one. I wish that the US had a law that makes shops charge for plastic bags like the one in the UK, I know everyone would be more motivated to bring bags along. When I first moved over here there were paper bags at the checkout but everyone preferred plastic, so the stores stopped using paper. Please bring them back!

Step two - look around the home and see which products are packaged in plastic, next time you go shopping, try to buy the products in non plastic containers. I am currently working on this, this week I needed toothpaste, I like natural fluoride free products but there are no toothpastes in my local stores that are not in plastic tubes. I visited one of my favorite websites: My Plastic Free Life for ideas and decided to look online. I found a couple of options on Amazon and ordered Taylors Tooth Powder , it is made from charcoal so I will see if it works for me.

I also needed some dish soap and after researching found that baking soda and vinegar are supposed to work well, baking soda comes in a nice cardboard box but the vinegar I have is in a huge plastic bottle, so next time I will hunt for a glass one. I tried using this yesterday and it seemed to clean well.

Laundry soap - I decided to try something natural and opted for Eco Nuts Soap, I have to wait for this to be delivered but I will update you on how well if works. The Eco Nuts are natural berries that produce soap, you place them in a bag in the washing machine and voila you have soap!

I hope my purchases this week, will work well and become a habit saving the earth from many more plastic bottles and tubes. We can change what manufacturers produce and sell by voting with our dollars and supporting smaller businesses that do care about the environment. If we choose natural packaging with minimal printing, recycled paper, burlap sacks, recycled card or tins, we are making a start. If we choose products that are more natural we are saving our bodies from an onslaught of toxic chemicals.

Here are some similar posts: Natural Hair Dye, Hand Wash Dishes, Healthy Food, Introduction

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Surround yourself with the beauty of natural things.

The Year of Living Kindly -Kind Woman Blog - Competitive Women

This is my blog about living kindly, being kind to myself, kind to the planet and kind to others. Life is a journey and I do not always get it right.

I have noticed that when I hang out with other women who are supposedly my friends they sometimes make really catty remarks. In the past I would have brooded on this for a while and probably bitched about them behind their backs. In my year of being kind, I have decided to take a new approach.

Women see other women as competition, perhaps it is hard wired in our brains from some ancient ancestry, women competing for men, for food, for attention. We have all learned how to flirt, dress up and flutter our eyelashes but at a certain point we have to be much more than this. We need to be strong, self sufficient and intelligent to be successful today.

When a woman sees another woman as successful she usually reacts in one of three ways, she is happy to be around a successful person, she tries to copy the successful person or she competes with them. I recently found happiness by making changes in my life and accepting who I am, I complain less and I feel more confident. I have noticed that some women around me have become competitive, by trying to belittle that things that I do and bolster their own importance. 

These women may say random things to make themselves feel better, such as quoting their college GPA, their higher education, the make of their car or their successes at work while demeaning the things that you have achieved, All of the former things are acceptable if the conversation is about education, cars or work but it is weird when you are discussing something else. 

How do we cope with these competitive women who make us feel bad?  Realize that they are feeling jealous of you so the best thing you can do is say "thank you'. You may not say it aloud but you should be thankful for all the success and happiness that you have. The other ladies still need to do some work so that they will feel better about themselves. We are all different with different skills and different interests let's celebrate our diversity and enjoy each others company. We cannot change others we can only change the way that we react to competition so let's all be friends and say 'thank you" and appreciate each other.

Friends

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Living with an Addict - How to Avoid Becoming an Enabler

 

A recent study quoted in USA Today from the Surgeon General estimated that 1 in 7 people in the US will be suffering from some sort of substance addiction. There are many other types of addiction gambling, sexual addiction and compulsive lying. With this is mind many people who are not addicts themselves will be living with or interacting with an addict. When the addict is a loved one we want to do everything that we can to help them.

Loving an addict can often turn the unsuspecting into an "enabler". If someone we care about is in trouble, needs money or is in danger of losing their job or career, an enabler will go out of their way to protect the addict. It is a natural instinct to protect those that we love. You may be the child of an addict suffering from physical or verbal abuse, afraid to ask your friends to meet your parent, you may be the spouse of an addict fooling yourself into thinking that the sober person who wakes up with you in the morning loves you enough to quit their habit.

As an enabler, you give money to the addict, make excuses for their behavior, lie to your friends and family and sometimes isolate yourself. You may feel guilty about the addiction and blame yourself for their behavior and you sacrifice yourself to make them happy.

STOP! Stop enabling, stop giving them money, let them lose their job, let them be embarrassed, let them clean up their own mess. You may think you are being kind by helping them but you are in reality exacerbating the problem and allowing it to go on for longer. The addict may never seek help but if you are enabling the behavior then their addiction becomes acceptable and they are less likely to seek professional assistance.

How do you stop being an enabler? The important thing is to set some rules, ask yourself what you will or will not do for the addict.

Here are some potential rules, it is up to you to decide which ones would work for you.

1. The addict cleans up their own mess.
2. You tape or record the addicts worst behavior to show them later on, this is not a good idea if they are violent.
3. You avoid conflict with the addict when they are under the influence.
4. You avoid contact with the addict at times when you know they are exhibiting unsociable behavior.
5. If the addict misses work they must call in themselves.
6. You continue to live your life and socialize with your friends and family even if the addict does not approve.
7. The addict pays for their own addiction, they do not need money from you.
8. If the addict asks for professional help, you encourage them to follow through with it.

Remember the best way to be kind to an addict is to not to be too kind.  Do not sacrifice yourself and your own happiness for an addict because you will make their behavior worse. If you love an addict you will help them to help themselves by doing less for them.

If you need the help of a life coach email me at: mysticpolly@gmail.com, we can discuss rates and how I may help you.

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Functioning Not Thriving - How to Recover from a Loss

In life there are many times when things do not go to plan and sometimes we are left feeling sad and unhappy but we still carry on as if everything is fine.  We think we are coping but in reality we are just functioning. There are many behaviors that we exhibit when we are in this state, I have listed a few below.

1. Self medicating - taking prescription or non-prescription drugs to make ourselves feel better.
2. Drinking - not necessarily excessive drinking but often daily drinking to help us to relax, sleep or forget.
3. Inappropriate relationships -getting involved with people who are unavailable emotionally or already married.
4. Job hopping - changing jobs often, sometimes voluntarily and sometimes not.
5. Careless personal hygiene.
6. Watching hours of TV, playing video games excessively causing neglect of other duties.
7. Gambling that has a negative impact on the quality of life.
8. Poor eating habits, eating quantities of unhealthy foods, such as bingeing on chocolate.
9. Finances - poor money management.

I know this is a long list of problems but they can all be experienced after the loss of a loved one, the break up of a relationship, loneliness, isolation or bankruptcy to name a few situations.

If you are exhibiting these behaviors you may feel fine and you may be functioning but somewhere inside there is a person inside you who is hurting. If your goal is to feel better, it is necessary to find a way to gain back control of yourself so that you will feel better. You may not realize that something is wrong but you know that you can do better.

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Life is a labyrinth of roads, some dark and some light. The light roads are the best.

How do you regain control of yourself and your life?

Replace your negative behaviors one by one, with something else. Sometimes it can take a while to be able to do this. It is said that if you get a divorce after 10 years of marriage it will take 5 years to recover, This is a long time but I can say from personal experience that there is some truth in this.

Here is my list of replacement behaviors that will make you feel better.

1. Sing whenever you can.
2. Dance -take dance lessons if you need them.
3. Learn a new skill such as to play an instrument.
4. Take up art, painting or pottery are good ones to start with.
5. Take up some form of exercise -yoga is great for mind and body.
6. Go back to school to learn a new skill or train for a new career.
7. Take as many vacations as possible.
8. Learn to cook some new healthy recipes.
9. Replace the alcohol with some other beverage that is less harmful.
10. Join a club where you can meet other people with similar interests and ideas.
11. Find a time each week to work on a budget and savings plan.
12. Find a life coach to keep you motivated and to pursue your new tasks and goals.

Change may happen slowly but with determination it is possible to turn the situation around and thrive once more.

To discuss how I may help you, please email me at mysticpolly@gmail.com, Pauline Courchene, Life Coach.

The Year of Living Kindly -Kind Woman Blog - Natural Hair Dye

This is my blog about being kind, kind to myself, kind to the planet and kind to others. Life is a journey and I am working on becoming a better person.

At my age, my roots become gray or white every few weeks. I am still at the salt and pepper stage and I do not believe that my hair color would be flattering if left to it's own devices. This means that every month I dye my hair. I am uncomfortable using chemicals in my hair so I switched to Mehandi.com there are a variety of kits for dyeing hair of all types and colors using ground up plant leaves. The company has expanded it's range and now includes products for African hair.

I originally just used henna on my hair but I found that my hair became darker each time I dyed it. The problem with henna is that once it is on your hair it seems to be impossible to lighten it. If you bleach it, the color turns orange! I learned to just dye my roots so that the color does not darken, henna does not fade.

The wonderful thing about natural hair dye is that it makes your hair thick and shiny which is a definite plus. I had been dyeing my hair a vibrant red which gave me red highlights through my gray section but I have switched to a dark blonde mix and I am trying to decide which I prefer. The great thing about hair kits from Mehandi.com is that if you are only dyeing your roots monthly, the kits last for months.

I prepare the dye the day before use because it needs to sit for 6-8 hours. I use a brush to put the dye on my roots. I leave the dye on all night and sleep in a plastic shower cap and head scarf, very glamorous! I then take two baths in the morning to wash the dye out, it is a bit like mud in the hair and very mucky. I then use a conventional conditioner to detangle the hair.

My hair feels soft, shiny and strong!

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Dream Meaning - Dreaming about a House

This is my dream interpretation blog where I write about dream meanings often based on the requests of those around me.  Here is my dream interpretation blog, where I explore dream meanings, you may also enjoy the daily psychic workout where I explore tarot cards, dreams, runes and meditation.

Dreaming about houses is very common, we often dream about homes that we used to live in, homes that we would like to live in and homes that just appear randomly in our dreams.

A house in a dream is a foundation, a residence it is our vision of who we are. It is the bricks and mortar of our perception of ourselves.

Old Home Dream-dreaming of a home that you once lived in, if it was a positive dream is a sign that you want to go back to being the person you were at that time in your life, perhaps you wish to recreate the happiness and self worth you had at that time. If your dreams of a former home are negative and you are unhappy to be there, it is a warning that you need to change your behavior so that you do not recreate old negative patterns.

Present Home Dream -If you dream about your present house and it is a positive dream, you are happy with yourself and the way you present yourself to the world. If you dream about your current home and it is negative then you need to change certain things about your behavior to make yourself a better person.

Old House Dream -To dream of an old house may mean that you are feeling very traditional in your responses to life's challenges or that you are letting your older relatives and friends influence the way that you look at yourself. 

New House Dream -To dream of a new house would mean that you are reinventing yourself perhaps through education, being in a new environment or in a new relationship. 

Dirty House Dream - To dream that you live in a dirty house is a sign that you are doing something in your life that is making you feel bad. You need to change your behavior and present a cleaner image to yourself and the world.

Clean House Dream - If the house is excessively clean it may be a sign that you are so worried about how you look to others that you are no longer able to relax and enjoy life.

A derelict house dream - this is a sign that you need to get some help, possibly professional help to deal with your problems. You definitely have to do some work and make many changes in your life so that you will feel happier and more satisfied with yourself and feel that you are a useful member of society. You may be lacking in confidence and need to make changes in order to feel better. You may have health issues that are interfering with your sense of worth.

Haunted House Dream - To dream of a haunted house may mean that you are letting the ghosts of your past interfere with your present happiness. Some experiences need to be left in the past so that you can build a brighter future for yourself.

House full of strangers dream - This is a sign that you are making changes to your personality and you may not even recognize aspects of yourself. It may show that you are developing new talents and skills that you were previously unaware of.

House on Fire Dream - To dream of a house fire may mean that you are tearing down everything that you previously were, it could be in a constructive way making a fresh start or it could mean that you are throwing away all of your dreams aspirations and education and you need to stop your current behavior and repair the damage. If the home was not yours, then you are witnesses the meltdown of someone close to you and you should intervene to prevent them from destroying themselves.

Flooded House Dream - This dream shows that you are under pressure, you have too much debt -the feeling of being under water, or too many responsibilities. This dream is a warning that you must take immediate action to prevent further damage, you may need to ask someone for help depending on the severity of the flood. You may need to quit your job, quit gambling, quit the behavior that is creating the problem in your life. If there is a current running through the home, you need to resist the temptation to go with the flow and hold on to what you already have.

House in a Tornado Dream - Dreaming of a house being destroyed by a tornado or excessive winds is a sign that you are being negatively effected by external forces beyond your control. A tornado is often described as the finger of God, there is no escape from what will happen. The best thing you can do in these circumstances is to hold on to who you are despite what is happening in your environment, usually wind events are short lived and if you take shelter you can survive. Do not get swept up in the excitement of the hour hold tight and be true to yourself. This dream can also refer to whirlwind romances -the same is true be yourself and do not get swept away.

To Dream of an apartment or flat - If you do not live in an apartment or flat, this dream will show that you are conforming to the norms of a group. You are one in a pile of many, you are not feeling that special or different. If the flat was vibrant then you are able to stand out from the crowd. If yours was the worst flat then you need to do better and work on some aspects of yourself to make yourself more attractive and accomplished.

To dream of a semi detached house - This is a sing that you are in a long term stable relationship with someone else who you rely upon. If they were not around would you fall down? You need to be committed to the relationship but do not sacrifice your own needs for someone else.

To dream of a terraced(row) house - You are feeling part of the group but you may not be allowing yourself to be an individual and making the most of your unique talents. Sometimes we want to fit in with others and to be a part of something that is bigger than we are but we must still retain the ability to be different and unique. 

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Dreams about buildings and furniture, man-made things

dream about television

Dreaming about a hotel and wearing white

Dream about a Statue

Dream about stealing dishes

Dreaming about a House

Dream Meaning: Room mate, furniture, musicians

Dream meaning scaffolding

Dream meaning Park Bench

Dreaming of cutting the grass, mowing the lawn

Dream of losing your purse, dream of making dough; dream of photographs

Dream of a sink

Dreaming about floors

Dream about candlesticks, dream about book shelves

Dream about cups, dream about two

Dream of a road

If you would like me to interpret a dream please email me mysticpolly@gmail.com

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The Year of Living Kindly -Kind Woman Blog - Hand Wash Dishes

This is my blog about my journey to become a kind woman, kind to myself, kind to the planet and kind to others. 

I always loved the dishwasher, my kids were young and I was cooking every day, it was my favorite appliance, it saved me so much time and the dishes came out really clean. I am now older and my appliance is older too, the dishes do not always shine and I only need to turn it on about every three days. I live in Florida and last year I noticed that cockroaches were regularly getting in my dishwasher to feed. Gross!

I started to rinse the dishes before putting them in the dishwasher, then I realized that if I was going to do all this work and have to load and unload the machine, why shouldn't I just hand wash the dishes? My problem with washing dishes by hand is that it takes a little longer, I still have to dry them and it takes several minutes for the water to get warm, so I waste a lot of water waiting for it to get hot. I could off course use the kettle.

If I hand wash, I am saving electricity so that is good for the planet although I am not sure which type of dish soap is safest if either of them are, and then there is the packaging, most dish washing soap comes in plastic bottles....I will have to do some more research. The thought of removing a source of food for roaches is good so perhaps they will be less of a pest this year. The kindness experiment continues...

The Year of Living Kindly -Kind Woman Blog - Being Kind When Challenged

My new year resolution was to be kind this year, kind to myself, kind to the planet and kind to others, this is my blog about my journey to become a kind woman.

However kind we think we are, sometimes we will be challenged by the perceptions of others. This happened to me yesterday at work, I cannot go into exact details, but I had been working with a client and I thought that I was giving them excellent service, I was in fact going a few extra yards to help them. Unfortunately some people who were not in possession of the full facts about a situation jumped to a conclusion and dropped my name in the dirt and trampled on me.

At this point I had a choice, I could go into that persons office and explain myself, send off an indignant email or do nothing. What should a kind woman do? Kind does not mean being defenseless but it does mean being smart and thinking of what you will achieve by your actions and how those actions will make you and others feel. This blog is about being kind to yourself and others and the answer to this question no doubt will vary by personality.

I gave this some thought yesterday, if I ran into the office to defend myself, I could look aggressive and threatening and then perhaps a situation would be escalated. I could send out the angry, indignant email that would initially make me feel good, "take that...." but it would make the other person feel bad and would enable me to score points. Why do I want to score points and show the other person up as being ill informed? I realized that I don't need to score points, I know the truth and I did the right thing, I stand by my actions and I feel good!

This is another win for the kind woman but it was a challenge! My advice is to follow your gut feelings, do not go for the immediate rush of winning a battle, in the end kindness and truth will prevail.