Previous month:
March 2010
Next month:
May 2010

April 2010

Burn the Naughty List!

Lyrics to I've Got A Little List :
As some day it may happen that a victim must be found,
I've got a little list, I've got a little list
Of society offenders who might well be underground,
And who never would be missed, they never would be missed!

Some words from: Gilbert and Sullivan's song from The Mikado.

When somebody hurts you or upsets you, do you think to yourself, "I will get them back!", or "They can't get away with what they did to me!" Most of us do, whether it's a bad relationship, a business partnership or an employer - we are often seething with rage about things that have happened and that we cannot change. The important thing to remember is that it happened and it is over with - we need to get on with our lives.

All people who have flabby hands and irritating laughs —
All children who are up in dates, and floor you with 'em flat —
All persons who in shaking hands, shake hands with you like that —
And all third persons who on spoiling tête-á-têtes insist —
They'd none of 'em be missed — they'd none of 'em be missed!

There's the banjo serenader, and the others of his race,
And the piano-organist — I've got him on the list!
And the people who eat peppermint and puff it in your face,
They never would be missed — they never would be missed!
Then the idiot who praises, with enthusiastic tone,
All centuries but this, and every country but his own;
And the lady from the provinces, who dresses like a guy,
And who "doesn't think she dances, but would rather like to try";
And that singular anomaly, the lady novelist —
I don't think she'd be missed — I'm sure she'd not he missed!

And that Nisi Prius nuisance, who just now is rather rife,
The Judicial humorist — I've got him on the list!
All funny fellows, comic men, and clowns of private life —
They'd none of 'em be missed — they'd none of 'em be missed.
And apologetic statesmen of a compromising kind,
Such as — What d'ye call him — Thing'em-bob, and likewise — Never-mind,
And 'St— 'st— 'st— and What's-his-name, and also You-know-who —
The task of filling up the blanks I'd rather leave to you.
But it really doesn't matter whom you put upon the list,
For they'd none of 'em be missed — they'd none of 'em be missed!
Chorus.
You may put 'em on the list — you may put 'em on the list;
And they'll none of 'em be missed — they'll none of 'em be missed!


Easy to say, not easy to do!  If you wake up in the middle of the night and you are angry and frustrated, you may want to get up and compose a letter or an email to the person who has caused you the grief. I recommend that you do this, but whatever you do, don't send it, if it is an email, do not press the send button, just get all of your feelings out and then dispose of the evidence.

KarmaCop-311x322
Good suggestions for keeping your good karma on this site!

http://www.goodkarmafactory.com/ 

Burning the problem is good, it makes it final and gives you the chance to let go of all those bad feelings. You have to believe in karma, always wish your enemies well and be generous with your good energy.

Recently, I was contemplating writing a list of all the employers in Orlando who are really bad at retaining staff. They advertise the same positions on careerbuilder.com every week.  Either these companies are expanding like crazy, they don't care care about their employees or they have really bad human resources departments hiring the wrong people. Hire and fire is a terrible way to do business and unfortunately with the current economy employees have no choice but to work for these companies.

Bad-jobs-4
 
Another reason companies may be hiring constantly...

 http://ilovewarsonwoods.blogspot.com/

I did not compile the list.Even though, I tried to justify writing the list by saying that I was doing it to help people choose the right job, but really I just wanted to hurt the employers to get back at them.  This is negative energy and does not leave me in a good state of mind!

I have to send out positive messages that will come back to me as good things!  There is no point in harboring negative thoughts that will contaminate each beautiful new day.

Letting-go 
This lovely image is from a really positive website, see below:

 http://www.only-positive-news.com/archives/category/empowerment

Burn the naughty list and make a fresh start!  If you would like me to help you move on from a bad experience and get your life back on track; call me.

Email me: [email protected]

College Advisor: I have worked in education for many years teaching business and information studies and advising students on which college program to take and which university to attend. I have helped hundreds of students with college applications. If you need a life coach to help you with anything related to education, please email me at [email protected] I can help you to set goals and give you the benefit of my experience.


Seeing your future....

Crystal-ball-17
This great photograph can be found at:

 http://hotshotphoto.com/crystal-eye-photography

We all know that if we can see something then we may be able to make it happen. I have written before about positive visualisation. If you have worked out exactly what your goals are then the next step is to see them.

Vision-board
I took this wonderful vision board from Judith Morgan's blog, to see more please click on this link:

http://judithmorgan.typepad.com/photos/uncategorized/vision_board_1.jpg  

Making a Vision Board

Making a vision board cam be fun, especially if you are able to access your inner child, the one who liked to do art projects at school.  You may just use a notice board and magnets or you may work on an abstract work of art. What matters is the energy you use in producing that vision. You may cut pictures from magazines, print them off the internet or paint the pictures yourself.

Vision_board_DCP_8189
An artistic vision board, using a mosaic background, you could also use wrapping paper. I found this one on an interesting site about hypnosis.

hypnosistothemax.com/abouthypnosis.html 

It doesn't matter what the work looks like to anyone else because it is your own creation and it is meaningful to you.  Some of my most successful clients have their vision boards on display at work so they can focus each day on why they are sitting at that desk and doing that job.

Vision-board1
A simple vision board with a great mantra! Click the site below for more on this.

 http://whoyoucallingaskeptic.wordpress.com/2009/04/17/law-of-attraction/

I have a goal book, which I keep near my bed, some of us like to be a little more discrete about our goals. The important thing is that each day you focus on your vision board and see the results that you are getting. When one item is completed you may want to add more, or you may prefer to make updating the board a monthly activity to keep you in the habit of refocusing your energy and ideas.

Travelboard
This is a great vision board for a specific purpose. You can see this and other inspiring ideas on The Chic Life  - click on the link:

http://thechiclife.typepad.com/the_chic_life/tidbits/ 

For a free life coaching session email me: [email protected]

Let's talk soon, I can help you achieve your goals!

College Advisor: I have worked in education for many years teaching business and information studies and advising students on which college program to take and which university to attend. I have helped hundreds of students with college applications. If you need a life coach to help you with anything related to education, please email me at [email protected] I can help you to set goals and give you the benefit of my experience.


Shhh! I want to be a librarian!

Librarian
http://create-illusions.deviantart.com/art/Secret-life-of-a-librarian-94222440

Many people are going through career crises at this time, the bad economy is forcing some people to re evaluate their careers and priorities. Here are a few hints at things you might do to find out which career path you could take.

1. Think back to when you were a child, what did you want to do then? How realistic was that? Did you do it? Why or why not?

2. Did your family ever suggest a career to you because of your skills and attributes? Was it a good suggestion? Is it something that you could do now?

3. When you first got into the work force did you have a dream that you haven't yet achieved? Is it a possibility at this time? Why or why not?

4. What other careers have you considered?

5. Make a list of the careers that you could possibly follow. Which ones to do you have the skills for? Could you acquire those skills? Could you go back to school? Why not?

6. Research each career, what are the prospects, pay and benefits? Do these fit your aspirations?

7. Are you prepared to make sacrifices to become the person that you wanted to be?

8. Make a list fo all the attributes that you have that would make you great in each career.

9. Decide which career you are most excited about and then make an action plan to make this career a reality.

Gnome
 
You can find this image from this talented artist at:

 http://wordsandtoons.com/2009/09/24/poor-career-choice/

Here is my list of attributes to become a librarian

( some of these are more important than others!)

1. I wear glasses

2. I am softly spoken - I like to whisper.

3. I enjoy doing research on the computer and in books.

4. I love books, I even read some of them.

5. I am interested in a huge range of subjects.

6. I am extremely well organised.

7. I have great customer service skills.

8. I would rather go to a bookshop than a bar.

9. I am a fast learner and grasp new subjects and ideas quickly.

10. I am excited about becoming a librarian.

If you are interested in a career as a librarian; the following site is very helpful: http://www.ala.org/

For the record: my parents thought I should be a model - because I was a skeletal child. I wanted to be an air hostess - it was a glamorous job when I was growing up. Later on, I wanted to be a spy - I was watching too many James Bond movies!

Air_hostess_300x431
Retro uniform from the Virgin Atlantic site.

 http://www.virginmedia.com/jobs/features/retro-uniforms.php?ssid=3

In reality I want to be a librarian but Shhh it's a big secret - I wouldn't want anyone to think that I am a bookworm!

Bookworm
Great picture of Marilyn - a fellow bookworm!

 http://www.psfk.com/2008/08/penguindatingcom-for-book-lovers-looking-for-love.html

If you need help working out where to go in your career or what is next for you, please email me: [email protected]

College Advisor: I have worked in education for many years teaching business and information studies and advising students on which college program to take and which university to attend. I have helped hundreds of students with college applications. If you need a life coach to help you with anything related to education, please email me at [email protected] I can help you to set goals and give you the benefit of my experience.


Writing your Mantra

As a life coach, my function is to help people with goal setting and staying on track to achieve their dreams. A very useful tool for keeping yourself focussed is to say a daily mantra.

A Mantra is defined as a scared utterance - it should be positive and meaningful to you and said with feeling and emotion.

Many people write mantras based on their weekly and monthly goals. Some of the most successful sales people that I have worked with, say a mantra whenever they are about to meet a client. They get really excited and say "it's a deal!". It works very well.

Mantra 
www.jivanjili.org/.../New9/Mother%20Gayatri.jpg

This image can be found on a website devoted to meditation, see above.

Mantras are best said aloud, and repeated often, with emotion. You may want to repeat your mantra in meditation in an atmosphere of complete concentration, it all depends on you.  It is the belief in the mantra and the repetition of your goals that will bring you success.

What should you include in your mantra?

Sales goals - quantity and target date.

Personal goals - e.g. time spent with your children

Diet and exercise goals: Number of calories to consume, number of minutes on the treadmill each day.

Travel and vacation goals - take a trip to Alaska by June 2010.

Financial Goals - earn x amount of dollars by June 30th 2010, or have a certain amount in savings/

Career Goals - have a job by May 1st 2010, or get promoted to manager by Sept 30th 2010.

There are some many areas of your life that will benefit if you set your goals down on paper and repeat your mantra at least once a day.

I attempted to write a mantra poem - it seems a little less edgy to me, but it might work.....

"Let me find a job I like, Helping others see the light

Keeping fit each day as well, Eating healthy feeling well

Spending hours with my kids, Getting paid for what I did

Taking time to heal myself, Writing to improve my wealth!"

If you would like a free life coach session with me to see how you will benefit - please email me: [email protected]

College Advisor: I have worked in education for many years teaching business and information studies and advising students on which college program to take and which university to attend. I have helped hundreds of students with college applications. If you need a life coach to help you with anything related to education, please email me at [email protected] I can help you to set goals and give you the benefit of my experience.


Remembering to use the Universal Laws of the Universe

This is just a reminder to those of you who have been having negative thoughts lately.  Now is the time to banish them, see yourself and your future in a positive light and it will all happen at the right time.

Here are the laws:

The law of Relativity

Nothing is good or bad, big or small until you compare it to something else.  If you have a big problem, you can make it seem smaller by relating it to something much bigger!

Big_dog_little_dog

The Law of Perpetual Transmutation

All people have the power to change the conditions in their lives. Higher energies consume lower energies so by using the universal laws we can change our circumstances. The images you see in your mind appear in your life. (get a vision board!)

 

Transm

This is a beautiful mandala of transmutation. You can purchase this print at tis website:

 http://cosmicsensorium.com/mandala_store.php

The Law of Vibration and Attraction

Everything in the universe vibrates, awareness of vibration is feeling. We attract what we feel (think) about, the more strongly we feel or vibrate towards something the quicker it manifests. Strong positive feelings work the best!

Law_of_attraction
http://mojo1000.com/1000cuts/the-law-of-attraction-and-diminishing-returns.html

Perhaps this guy didn't feel emotional about his money tree?

The Law of Polarity

Everything has an opposite, hot or cold, good or bad.

Polarity 

http://sahajapower.files.wordpress.com/2008/05/web_libra.jpg

This website talks about the law of polarity,the importance of balance the existence of good and bad. We manifest what we put out, karma. The picture is of course Libra - the scales of justice and also balance.


The Law of Rhythm

Night follows day. I like this one, the economy has been down but it is getting better, everything changes perpetually and so if you are having a hard time, know that it will get better for you. Keep a positive attitude and see good things.

Rising tides 

http://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://www.photofool.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2008/06/_MG_1005_800.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.photofool.com/2008/07/02/rising-tides-falling-clouds-bw/

Rising and falling tides. It is a great reminder when you visit the ocean to see the tides come in and out and remember that everything changes....

The Law of Cause and Effect

If you take action you will get a reaction. Whatever you put out will come back to you.

Water_ripple_j0402205_wide http://www.icr.org/cause-effect/

A small drop of water causes all these ripples. Sometimes we are not aware of all the effects of our actions. Even small actions can create huge effects...

The Law of Gender

Every thought is a spiritual seed, each thought has a gestation period and will come to fruition when the time is right.  Sometimes we are really impatient for an event to happen and we get really impatient. We must believe that the universe only knows perfect timing.  We have sewn the positive seeds, we must wait until they are ready to grow.

Law of gender 

http://www.flickr.com/photos/9943678@N04/3083519365/

Everything takes time to gestate and grow, flowers and butterflies transform from one form to another. Ideas have a gestation period too. Sometimes it is better to enjoy the beauty of the moment that always be waiting for the moment of perfection. The budding flower is just as beautiful as the flower in bloom.

 Keep thinking positive things, remember everything changes and enjoy each day to the full!

To set up a free life coaching session please email me: [email protected] 

College Advisor: I have worked in education for many years teaching business and information studies and advising students on which college program to take and which university to attend. I have helped hundreds of students with college applications. If you need a life coach to help you with anything related to education, please email me at [email protected] I can help you to set goals and give you the benefit of my experience.

 


Using a pendulum - an unusual way to make decisions!

The first time I used a pendulum was when I was pregnant with my first child Andrea, we put a key onto a piece of string and held it over my belly. A circle means a girl and a line back and forth means a boy. we correctly predicted that I was expecting a girl!

I learned more about the pendulum when I attended a class with Deb Prievo at "What you love to do" in Cocoa Village.  She is running her class again at the beginning of May, here is a link to the site: http://www.whatyoulovetodo.com/events

Sometimes we have to make decisions and we are not really sure about how we feel about all the alternatives.  Some of us are very logical and some of us are very emotional and making decisions can be a real minefield of us second guessing ourselves. That is why I sometimes use my pendulum to explore my feelings.

This is how the process works for me: I draw a chart of alternative courses of action and ask my pendulum to show me the best course of action for me.  Sometimes, I get the answer that I want and sometimes I don't, I will then ask the questions again and I can judge by my reaction to the answer how I really feel about a course of action.

It is a bit like pulling the petals off a flower, "he loves me, he loves me not", at least no flowers get injured and I can be really specific about my questions.

He-loves-me

You can find this picture and some other really interesting articles on this site: http://astrologyexpressed.wordpress.com/page/2/

If you are interested in how to use a pendulum correctly, this is a great site. http://www.articlesbase.com/self-help-articles/pendulum-divination-anyone-can-do-it-329189.html

I made my own board by writing down all of my alternatives, however there are some beautiful generic boards available. I love the artwork on this one.

Penboard2

You can find this one and more on this website:  http://www.paganspath.com/magik/pendulum.htm

[email protected]

College Advisor: I have worked in education for many years teaching business and information studies and advising students on which college program to take and which university to attend. I have helped hundreds of students with college applications. If you need a life coach to help you with anything related to education, please email me at [email protected] I can help you to set goals and give you the benefit of my experience.


 


How did your week go? Time for some silliness..

Did you do everything that you set out to do?

Did you make your list of things to accomplish this week?

What grade would you give yourself?

Do you think that you could do better next week?

Make your plan, write it down and then kick back it's almost the weekend!

If you are feeling down, then do something silly!

Female IT experts
I found this one on a great silly site see link:

http://www.thesilly.com/silly-stuff-pictures/pictures/wimin.html

need help staying on track? Life coach: [email protected]

College Advisor: I have worked in education for many years teaching business and information studies and advising students on which college program to take and which university to attend. I have helped hundreds of students with college applications. If you need a life coach to help you with anything related to education, please email me at [email protected] I can help you to set goals and give you the benefit of my experience.


Have you forgotten who you are?

Some of us get so involved in helping others, the kids, grandkids, our parents, our partners, our work, that we forget who we are. If we had some "me" time, we might not know what to do with it.

Here is a great tool for rediscovering yourself. http://www.eclecticenergies.com/enneagram/test.php

Enneagram tests will help you to rediscover who you are. Here is a wonderful article about the history and use of the enneagram. http://www.endlesssearch.co.uk/philo_enneagram1.htm

Enneagram

I copied this picture from the website above.

If you need help figuring out who you are and what you want out of life, email me: [email protected] Your future awaits....

College Advisor: I have worked in education for many years teaching business and information studies and advising students on which college program to take and which university to attend. I have helped hundreds of students with college applications. If you need a life coach to help you with anything related to education, please email me at [email protected] I can help you to set goals and give you the benefit of my experience.

 


Keeping all your personalities happy!

Do you sometimes feel a lot of conflict in your life?  You are not sure which direction to take and what is going to make you happy. You want to do one thing but a voice in your head tells you something else is better, so you head off in one direction and the next day you turn around and head the other way! 

I am most likely an extreme case. There are so many things that I want to do but they are so diverse that I find myself being very scattered, always heading off in a different direction.  It is as if there are 3 different people in my head and they all have their own goals, what one person likes the other one dislikes and it gets very confusing, not just for me, but for anyone who knows me well.

The answer is of course balance, letting each of the personalities rule different parts of your life. You can tell from my blog that I am trying to work on at least 3 careers right now, each one is very important to one of my personalities. I have to schedule time for each person to work.  Each one has goals and ideas and they have to learn to share one body.

As you can imagine, one of my personalities is telling me not to write this blog, because it makes me sound like a freak, but this is my rebellious personality and she is fighting for control today.

How can I help anyone when I seem to be so mixed up myself?  I think my ability to empathise with other people because I truly care is what sets me apart from other life coaches. I am not going to pretend to be perfect or have all the answers, I don't. I can motivate you, mentor you and encourage you to be more successful and happy.

I am here for you and you can tell me anything, I am extremely open minded. If I can help you, please email me for a free session.  [email protected]

Talk to you soon,

Polly

DSC02333
My recent trip to California - finding some balance in nature.

College Advisor: I have worked in education for many years teaching business and information studies and advising students on which college program to take and which university to attend. I have helped hundreds of students with college applications. If you need a life coach to help you with anything related to education, please email me at [email protected] I can help you to set goals and give you the benefit of my experience.


Coping with Unemployment

I know it's a gloomy subject and today is a beautiful day but for many of us this is a reality. There are many stages to coping, and of course it all depends on your circumstances.

1. Deal with your emotions

2. Make a budget

3. Step back and check your direction?  Is it time for a career change?

4. Take a good look at yourself, who are you really?  You may want to take a personality test to find your strengths and weaknesses to help you to focus on what you really want.

5. Decide if you are going to retrain for a new career and if you can afford to go back to school. This may  be an opportunity for you to pursue something that you had postponed in the past.

6. Make a great resume, always take the time to edit your resume to suit the position you are applying for.

7. Apply for jobs online, in person and most importantly through your friends and relatives. Referrals make a huge difference.

8. Always dress appropriately for your interview, wear your most confident smile and be as charming as you can be!

9. Keep your sense of humour and interview the person who is interviewing you, after all they want to buy your time - do you want to work with them?

10. Still not working? Use this time wisely - spend time with your family, take care of those around you, write a book, paint your masterpiece, learn how to repair things cheaply - this is down time but it may be the most precious time in your life.

Enjoy every moment of each day. The birds singing, the sun shining, the stars at night, the smell of freshly cut grass, children playing, the hum of passing cars.

If you need some help getting your life together, I am on a mission to help you!

Talk to you soon. [email protected]

College Advisor: I have worked in education for many years teaching business and information studies and advising students on which college program to take and which university to attend. I have helped hundreds of students with college applications. If you need a life coach to help you with anything related to education, please email me at [email protected] I can help you to set goals and give you the benefit of my experience.

 


Thank you for firing me!

When you lose your job, it can hurt, you feel as if you have lost your identity, you have lost your security and off course you know many more people in the organisation who should have been fired before you were! You went to work every day, did what you were supposed to do, put in your hours and then clocked out!

Youre-fired

That is actually why I was fired, because in today;s workforce you are not supposed to clock out, you need to eat, sleep and breathe your job. Work life balance is a joke to most employers. There are so many unemployed people clambering for a position, that you are just an expendable commodity. Your education, your experience and your skills are unimportant. There is no loyalty, and there is a corporate acceptance of lying and cheating to get paid. One of the tough things to deal with for me, is that I have high ethical standards, lying to customers is not something that I want to do. I like to sleep soundly at night with a clear conscience. I do not want to have to drink and drug myself to sleep so that I can get through another week of deception.

It is true that I do not have any security, no pension, no benefits, no promotion prospects....it is time to take stock and find a new way of living. I have used my down time to forge better relationships with my daughters - the most important people in my life. I have set up a vintage clothes business with my daughter Andrea, which has been great fun! www.pegasusvintage.etsy.com

I have retrained and become a certified life coach. I have spent my life teaching, coaching and mentoring people. I am actively looking for clients who need my help.

These last few months, I have worked with 2 friends of mine on setting up new businesses, one is a phone room and one is marketing SVS a cleaning product and I am so grateful for these opportunities. www.mysvs.org

My aim in life is to help others and always to do the right thing.  I hope to coach many people through life's dramas and traumas so that we can all live happier and more fulfilling lives.

Please email me if I can help you. [email protected]

College Advisor: I have worked in education for many years teaching business and information studies and advising students on which college program to take and which university to attend. I have helped hundreds of students with college applications. If you need a life coach to help you with anything related to education, please email me at [email protected] I can help you to set goals and give you the benefit of my experience.


Should we be foolish? A sensible approach!

"A Fool" a person with poor judgement or little intelligence. My favourite fool is of course from the Tarot cards:

The fool

This is so appropriate for the beginning of Spring, we see a young man setting off on a journey, he is happy and care free, he has a few simple possessions in his bag and his small dog at this side. What a great setting, but wait! He is about to step off a cliff into the abyss and he is blissfully unaware of it, his dog is trying to warn him but he is just daydreaming along.

Whether it is work, or a new love, starting a new life, we all need to plan and set ourselves goals. The fool did not plan his route, he is not looking ahead, he is oblivious to the warnings.

This is a new month, time to start fresh, set your goals, big and small. Quantify them, date them and write them down. How are you going to get where you need to be? Just wandering down the road may lead you off a cliff. Wake up!

Are you starting a new life? A new relationship? A new business? A new job? Where do you want to go? How are you going to get there? Is there anyone in the drivers seat today?

Happy April Fools day! I think I might just take a stroll on the beach - there are no cliffs in Florida.....

[email protected]

College Advisor: I have worked in education for many years teaching business and information studies and advising students on which college program to take and which university to attend. I have helped hundreds of students with college applications. If you need a life coach to help you with anything related to education, please email me at [email protected] I can help you to set goals and give you the benefit of my experience.